There was a time when the thought of school sent shivers down my spine. I remember as a teen the dread I felt every morning that alarm clock sounded. I would roll over and smack it within an inch of it's life and pray that perhaps I forgot today was Saturday. I would drag myself out of bed and begrudgingly get ready for school.
Everyday was the same mindset. I would sit in class and scoff at my math teacher when he would tell me how important my education was and how one day I will rely on what I've learned.
I ended up graduating 3 months late, with a 1.3 GPA. Yeah...I know. Not my proudest moment in life.
How right my teacher was. If only my teenage brain could have truly grasped his words.
Now, at 33, those words are more important than ever.
I am a single mom with two amazing kids ages 8 and 10. Niki and Ali are the best things that have ever happened to me. Unfortunately, I never planned on being a single mom. I had a life that I thought would consist of taking care of my kids while someone else took care of me.
Stupid I know.
I never went to college after high school, decided to be a stay at home mom and relied on someone else for support.
If my high school math teacher could see me now, a big "I told ya so" would be in the picture.
I have zero regrets about being a stay at home mom from 22 to 32 years of age. It made and sculpted my kids into the amazing people they are today. I did, however, regret never going to college.
I felt it was a dream. Something far off and intangible. A life meant for someone else. Someone smarter, someone younger, someone more deserving.
I was so wrong.
Last semester, I decided enough was enough. It was time for me to reclaim my life and achieve my goals. I needed to be a role model for my girls. How could I sit there and preach to my children about the importance of education when I had none? How could I talk about perseverance, faith and belief in oneself if I had nothing to show for my life? Something had to be done.
I looked into classes at SCC. It was something I had been wanting to do for a while, so I figured no time was better than the present. I called, made an appointment with the counselor and went home that day with a strange feeling. A feeling I had never had before when it came to school. ... Excitement.
Me? Excited about school? Was I feeling ok? (fever check)
I went home that night and asked myself one simple question. Can I do this? After all I had been through, all the hardships I had faced, all the trials I had been experienced...the answer was yes!
My dear readers, especially you young ones, I am here to say there is absolutely no reason you can not achieve your goals and get the grades you desire.
I am proof of this. I have now been at SCC for two semesters, and I have maintained an A average in all of my classes. I do this while working, taking care of two children, taking care of all the household duties, grocery shopping, exercising, doctors appointments, flus, fevers, ear infections, assemblies at the girls school, helping my girls with their homework, doing my own...should I go on? I'm sure you get the picture.
If I can do it. What is your excuse? I'm not here to make you feel bad, or point out your flaws. I want to be here to motivate you to believe in yourself!
Yes, we all have busy lives. Yes, we all need a break and deserve down time and to be lazy, but if you are not getting the grades you desire, ask yourself why.
The biggest obstacle in your way, most times, is you.
With balance, hard work, a goal oriented mindset and perseverance, you CAN achieve your goals. With some basic pointers on how to balance your work load, you can rock at school. I do and so can you!
In my future blogs, I will talk about helpful ways to balance life with school, all while maintaining a social life.
Yes, I do still have fun, and I do have a life outside of school and kids. It's hard, but it can be done.
I am honored to have this blog and please feel free to ask me any questions or make any comments.
Especially all my single parents out there. If you just need to have some support, I'm here! I'm glad to have met you, and I look forward to helping and learning from you!